โ ๏ธ Heard a rumour? There's been a lot of misinformation spread by hate groups lately, let me know here if there's anything I can clear up. ๐
As a disabled member of the LGBT community I often face transphobia and ableism online. These trolls go out of their way to drive hatred towards my social profiles with the use of misinformation and rumours. There are entire forums dedicated to driving me towards suicide which I think is disgusting. We live in a world where human beings choose to spend their life sat behind a screen attacking disabled people online, which is disgraceful. If you don't like me, you are free to pi*s off. You don't need to stir up hate and misinformation to drive attacks against the disabled and LGBT communities. Many of these sites are closed off and don't allow the general public to reply to them, that's because they know they'll be disproven by actual genuine human beings with empathy and common sense. However because I'm not able to reply on there I've tried to clarify any confusions here.
Why not? Learning to drive I went with a disability specialist driving instructor who was amazing and taught me methods to overcome any challenges I faced. For example my dyspraxia and ear issues makes my balance poor, so I use reference points to align myself on the road instead.
If you need evidence that I can drive effectively, I scored 100% on the theory test multiple choice questions and I'll let my driving instructor speak for the practical element: "Congratulations to Amelia Connolly on passing her practical driving test at York test centre yesterday.ย Amelia successfully managed to battle with her pre test anxiety and go on to have a prefect drive with no driver errors. An amazing result with the best feedback Iโve heard from an examiner saying he felt โrelaxed and comfortable on the driveโ not an easy feat as Amelia took the test in her own car (mine didnโt have enough gadgets compared to a Nissan Leaf ๐) so there were no dual controls.ย Good luck with the driving Amelia - Iโll miss your heated seats ๐บ"
I've now been driving for three years without a single penalty point. For those that claim I use a phone while driving, I do not. I use cameras mounted to make my videos, such as this one. Filming like this is perfectly legal and safe. Driving has given me the ability to live independently as with my autism I'm unable to use public transport so without this freedom I would likely not be alive now due to my mental health.
Some people are saying that because of my cancer I get seizures, I do not. I once fainted in my bathroom and hit my head on the sink which led to me biting my tongue, this led the hospital to run tests for seizures but none of the medical results showed seizure indicative markers, it was only the circumstance that worried the ambulance crew because they didn't fully understand my health situation. It is an unexpected loss of consciousness, not a seizure. I have never once had a seizure. If you have to know, I collapsed because I tried to stand up to transfer onto the toilet, fell unconscious and slipped, banging my head. I should not have to share every aspect of my personal health online but unfortunately because I'm trans, as*holes will always put me under a spotlight and they want every single bit of information on me to try to catch me out wherever they can. In fact, I never shared that information publicly, trolls actually had fake accounts looking on my PRIVATE Instagram story which is for friends and family for support only. On there I mentioned, what if it's a seizure? And I read up and asked for advice on seizures, I never confirmed it was a seizure, I just wanted support. Since doing research and speaking with medical professionals I am confident that I do not suffer from seizures. Making data from my PRIVATE Instagram public without my consent is not only a criminal offence, it goes against the rules of the websites they're posting these on. I would never do anything that would put other people in danger.
So this is very ignorant. All my family live in different countries to me and have other caring responsibilities / work / other reasons they wouldn't be able to support me and even if they could I'm not going to make a family member move to a completely different country just so they could support me. There's lots of personal safety issues when it comes to me going back to England. A lot of things I don't feel fully comfortable sharing but there are lots of reasons why I couldn't simply return. You can read more about my story here. But you are not entitled to every single piece of information about me. I already feel I've had to share a lot more than I'm comfortable with just to protect my community and prevent people spiraling off with insane rumours about me.
There's also a myth that I'm faking? I don't know how I could fake cancer tbh... like I made TikToks in hospital on chemotherapy, do you think I just went in and asked to borrow an intravenous pump for the craic? And to say that I'm too open about using a wheelchair, I cried for ages sat outside the mobility shop when I realised I needed a wheelchair. It was not a decision I took lightly but my mobility deteriorated so fast and I had no other choice.
"I'd be trying all the physio until I'm cured" - b*tch you think I haven't? I was constantly going to the gym and working through a routine the physio made for me. It strengthened my muscles yes but it didn't make me able to stand and walk. I also have very limited energy levels as I'm suffering from cancer as a chronic illness, therefore I don't have the ability to exercise as much as I'd like to.
I've seen a lot of fake screenshots / recordings made lately pushed by transphobic groups that are disgusting and aim to target hate towards myself. It's incredibly easy to make a message say whatever you want it to with photo or video editing tools. Please don't believe everything you see online, especially when it comes from sources known to be transphobic.
I think there's a constant assumption from transphobes that if someone is transgender then they are a predator. A lot of people take advantage of me to push that mentality because of my autism and the fact I have a much lower emotional maturity age. I was told at the age of 17 that I have the emotional development age of a 12 year old. This means I come across as a lot younger than my age and I often get on well with people younger than me, as they're closer to my age mentally.
When I was 18 they claimed I dated a 15 year old and this still gets pushed a lot today even though we haven't talked in a long time. This wasn't true, we were just close friends that worked on a Roblox supermarket together. Because we're both autistic and had a special interest in retail we got on really well, our mothers started chatting together and they both thought it would be a nice idea if we met in person. That led someone who saw us online to make an anonymous false report to Crime Stoppers (they chose to do this because they knew it was false and the Police could come back on them when they made the false report). The Police interviewed everyone involved and determined the report was completely false and should never had been reported to the Police in the first place. It was clear nobody was at risk and I would never have met someone underage without their parents being okay with it. We even did work with the Hidden Disabilities Sunflower company to discuss putting the Sunflower Lanyard in our game and we had sunflower lanyards available in game when I owned that group. They openly supported us and saw no issue with it either, it's only the transphobes that try to frame me or take things I say under pressure out of context so that they can use it as a way to frame trans people as predators.
I've even volunteered as a Cubs leader in the past looking after 7-10 year olds meaning I was DBS checked and trained on safeguarding. I am a huge advocate for child safety and I'm disgusted by people trying to paint me as a child predator just because I'm trans and come across differently because of my neurodiversity. There are so many genuine predators out there flying under the radar because they're straight white men which society doesn't view as dangerous. Stop the trans people are dangerous rhetoric please. I have no doubt there are some trans people out there who are bad, but stop assuming we all are based on a few bad apples. Christian Priests are statistically far more dangerous if you want to judge based on prejudice. But you don't see people hating on churches.
The hate towards the LGBT and the transgender community is unwarranted and misguided.
^ Actual image of someone that chose to hate on me for views.